New Year resolutions.

Every single year, most of us spend the last few days in the calendar listing the things we want to do on the upcoming year. This is what we call resolutions. Just like a lot of people, I have tons of resolutions but failed to do it. So, this time, I am listing my 2011 New Year Resolutions by making it attainable and realistic. More of a bucket list, if you ask me.

1.       Volunteer more. There’s always something very humbling when you volunteer. It’s like changing someone’s life by being part of the solution.

2.       Save money. I want to save up for something grand by the end of the year. That also means, saying goodbye to buying expensive shoes and bags.

3.       Travel again. Whether it’s in the other islands in the Philippines or abroad.  Experience is always the best teacher.

4.       Learn how to cook.  It’s a step by step process. I’ll start with frying eggs.

5.       Get a new hobby. I’m hoping it would be pole dancing.

6.       No more sodas. If there’s no other choice, I’d rather go thirsty or drink my own saliva (eeww gross!)

7.       Lessen Rice...Increase Veggies.

8.       Exercise even more. I want to attend a marathon.

9.       No more cursing...loudly. I’ll just wish bad things in my mind...kidding!

10.   Spend more time with my family. They are not getting any younger. More memories to keep, the better.

11.   Stay positive. Smile as much as possible.

12.   Never turn down an invite. If the schedule permits, why not.

13.   Get more sleep. No more facebook when I get home.

14.   Never be late, ever.

15.   Pray harder. Pray often.

Happy Holidays!

Bonuses....13^th month pay....Christmas gifts....ahhh, the reasons why we all love this season. We have all the ability and funds to splurge and shop ‘til we drop because we want to give our loved ones something special to open on Christmas day or we want to buy new stuff for ourselves.

But if you live in the Metro, sometimes, this season can turn a “Santa” to a “Grinch”. Why you ask? For example:

1.       Traffic- It’s twice worse and its all throughout the day (and night!).

#TIP: shop really early. Traffic is more tolerable and you can get a nice spot to park.

2.       Crime- yup, it’s twice as much too.

#TIP: don’t bring lots of cash. This is the time that your plastic cards become more convenient. Always make sure you are aware of your surroundings.

3.       People- we all love to shop so understand all the long lines in the cashier and the crowded malls and shopping areas.

#TIP: if you can leave your kids at home, do so. If not, there are play areas in most malls where kids can stay. Stop dragging them inside shops and get angry when they start to throw a tantrum.

4.       Prices- you would notice that more items shoot up, price wise. Like they say in business, the more the demands, the more price increase you would see.

#TIP: Bargain shopping.  If you have the talent, you’ll get awesome stuff in very affordable price.

5.       Places- where oh where will you go this season of giving? Where can you find the things you need and want to buy?

#TIP: always go to shopping centres near your area. Sometimes, the extra P25 is worth it rather than getting very cheap stuff 100kms away from where you live.

6.       Gifts- what to buy for everyone you are giving gifts to.

#TIP: Always give something that the person will likely use. If you know the person well, you

Won’t have this problem. Just in case you are near going insane thinking, food always works.

7.       Attire- it always pays to be comfy all the time.

#TIP: wear clothes that are appropriate for shopping. No high heeled shoes, no leather shoes, no long sleeved polo, no leather jackets and no wearing to-die-for jewelleries.

Here’s my best tip: there’s always online shopping and delivery services. Comfort in your own home.

i heart BORACAY

It was my 13^Th time in Boracay. I don't know what is about this place that makes me come back every single year.  Back in 2003, i remembered how excited i was to finally visit Boracay after hearing so much about it and the instant my feet touched the white, fine, beautiful sand, I was in love. Since then, I went back there every chance I got. It was my ultimate vacation. It was my paradise.

So, why do i love Boracay so much? Well, let me count the ways (so cliche!):

1.       If you are a party person, nights in Bora will surely satisfy your thirst of hard partying.

Perk: no stilettos needed.

Downside: drunk jerks who think touching your ass is cool.

2.       Buffets. Every restaurant in this island has a buffet.

Perk: candle light dinner by the beach.

Downside: weight gain.

3.       A lot of women (and men) are very conscious when it comes to wearing bathing suits and board shorts. Here, people don't care what you look like in a bikini. No matter what size you are.

Perk: a chance to flaunt all the assets you are hiding.

Downside: your partner will always look at someone else.

4.       I love being tan. Specially when its a bora tan.

Perk: Your tan line is extra sexy.

Downside: It takes months before your real skin tone comes back.

5.       Great view of the Sunset and Sunrise.

Perk: Photos that  are magazine worthy.

Downside: When you miss it.

6.       So many activities to do. Water activities that can pump your blood. From diving, to island hopping, to parasailing. You name it, they got it.

Perk: You get to experience everything Bora has to offer.

Downside: It can cost you lots of money.

What to do when you are in Boracay:

1.       Get a henna tattoo. (from Kuya Ian, the tattoo guy in front of Jonas)

2.       Get your hair braided.

3.       Get a massage.

4.       Party at Cocomanggas.

5.       Eat the giant burger at Nigi-Nigi.

6.       Take-out your favorite alcoholic drink from Loco Frio.

7.       Drink your favorite shake at Jonas.

8.       Take pictures at Willy’s Rock.

9.       Buy cheap stuff from Station 3.

10.   Swim at Station 1.

11.   Do at least one major water activity.

12.   Watch fire dancers at night. (Rachel Lobangco if you are lucky)

13.   Take a picture of the sand castles made by kids.

14.   Enjoy the sand and the water.

Tips for the 1^st timers:

1.       Wear your bathing suit. You are in Boracay.T-shirt over your bikini is a no-no. And guys, please don't wear trunks. You are not in the Olympics!

2.       Expect to be tan. You are in the beach. There is sun. Beach + sun = Tan. Just don't forget to put on sunblock.

3.       “whatever happens in boracay, stays in boracay.” Learn that by heart.

4.       Don't wear high heels or boots when you go out at night to party. Its not required.

5.       Buy pasalubong. There are island shirts for only P99.00 and the bracelets, anklets and necklaces are very cheap too. You just need to learn how to bargain.

6.       Walk from station to station. Its a long way but who cares, you are walking on fine, white sand.

7.       Have extra cash.

8.       Take lots of pictures.

9.       The more the merrier. Bring the whole family or the whole barkada.

10.   Enjoy your stay. Its all worth it.

I can go on and on and on about Boracay. I just love this place. I will always go back there.

If I were the Government

So much hatred around us. People would need to get their act together for change. Lets make this a better and safer place to live in for us, for our children and our children's children.

If only I would have the power to make laws, these are some of it:

1. Every crime is punishable by the law. Eye for an eye and tooth for a tooth. If you commited murder, you should die the way you killed you r victim, If you committed rape, your penis would be cut off. If you stole something, your hands will be cut off too. If you commited adultery, you will be thrown in jail for the rest of your life.naked.

2. The car owner who will hit anyone who doesnt use the right way to cross the street will not be reliable for them.

3. Working hours will be 12 hours but only for 4 days. Employees would be allowed to choose what day they would like to have their off.

4. Holidays that will fall on a Tuesday or Thursday will automatically include Mondays and Fridays. However, malls are required to be closed. I encourage family time.

5. OFW will not be allowed to stay in another country for more than 6 months. They will need to be back in the country or else they will be proclaimed WANTED by all foreign countries.

6. All roads should be 6 lanes. Any establishment that are within the perimeter of the road will be forcibly destroyed.

7. Extra rooms of mansions will be occupied by people without homes. They would need to pay P500 rent a month, including utilities.

8. Everyone who are in jail before my term would be transferred to one of the 7, 101 islands that we have. I prefer the island which is shark-infested.

9. All goverment buildings will be in Visayas. All goverment employees will also need to live there.

10. Soldiers and Policemen will have their training in Mindanao. If they live after a struggle with the Abu Sayaff, they will graduate with honors and serve the country.

11. Garbage cans will be scattred all over the country. Anyone who gets caught littering will be jailed too. Their only bail would be recycling bottles and making them into a house.

12. Free wi-fi all over the philippines. facebook, twitter and chatting will be available for everyone over 18 years old. You need to swipe your ID to confirm your age. Lying would be a serious crime.

Hahahaha! Just kidding!

Signs You are Getting Old-er

I'm in my 30s. Apparently, most of my friends and some members of the family think that I don't look, act, talk or dress like my age. I take it as a compliment. I know that after 2 or more years, I will look my age. Well, thanks to science and sun block, I probably can delay it a day or 2.

Anyhow, this morning, while commuting to work aboard the very fast LRT 3, I got the taste of being the "ATE". From Katipunan to Recto, all I was thinking about were the changes I'm experiencing in my life and I kept asking myself: "ganon na ba ko talaga katanda?"

Here are the other signs:

1. When a person gives up his/her seat and everyone points at you to take it.

2. You sleep early and you wake up early too.

3. You tend to listen to an AM station than FM.

4. You and your friends debate on politics and not how cute the guy from a TV show is.

5. Conversation during social events are either about insurance policies, your health, the latest plastic surgery procedures or death.

6. You hate loud music.

7. Gimik is buffet dinner and coffee.

8. Your "mga bata" age, ranges from 18-25 year olds.

9. You find Eddie Garcia and Richard Gere really hot.

10. You throw away the cartoons part in the newspaper.

11. You always choose songs from the 80s when you do karaoke.

12. You check your diet every single time. Too much of something might bring you to the hospital.

13. You hate being called "ate" or "manang".

14. You deny your age.

15. You can relate to everyone's problem (since you've probably experienced it already).

They say that age is just a number. Well, yeah. Keep telling yourself that.

Things I Hate About You

I hate it when you don't come on time...but i hate you more when you arrive with flowers in your hand....

I hate it when you don't call when you said you would...but i hate you more when you answer my call with "I love you".

I hate it when you are not around...but i hate you more when all those times we are not together, you always tell me how much you miss me.

I hate it when you forget our anniversary....but i hate you more when I get a surprise gift when I get home.

I hate it when we fight over small things...but i hate it more when you're always the first one to say you are sorry.

I hate it when you go to your basketball game instead of watching a movie with me...i hate it more when I see our special day on your jersey.

I hate it when you get mad..i hate it more when you get mad at people being rude to me.

I hate it when you drink...i hate it more when you drink to celebrate my achievement.

I hate it when you go home late...i hate it more when you tell me that you are on your way to where I live.

I hate it when you leave me alone in a party...i hate it more when you tell me that you just want to stare at me from afar.

I hate it when you let me eat so much...i hate it more when you say that no matter how I look, I will always be sexy to you.

I hate it when you lie...i hate it more when you tell me that you just don't want to argue with me.

But mostly I hate the way I don’t hate you,

not even close…

not even a little bit…

not even at all. (poem from "10 things I hate About You" movie)

HOW TO HAVE A GUY IN 10 WAYS (a non-expert advice from a girl who’s been dating since she was 15 years old)

Note: this blog was written because of 2 reasons:I was at home on a Saturday night and I got really bored. Just watched " How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days".

1.       Basketball knowledge

Nothing is hotter for a guy than a girl who talks basketball. Guys dig chicks who can understand what the hell is going on in an NBA/PBA/NCAA/UAAP game. So, pick a winning team and don’t hesitate cheering for them.

2.       Action Films

Say goodbye to happily-ever-after movies. If you want to have a fantastic date with a guy, choose a film where men beat up each other and women wear skimpy clothes. Don’t worry; he’ll give in to the chick flick next time.

 

3.       Shopping...for stuff EXCEPT shoes

Men loves shopping too, except, they usually buy from a car, gadget or tools shop. Just go along with him and ask questions about the stuff he’s buying. Taking notice of what he’s interested with will make him more interested with you too.

4.       One of the Boys

Drink beer. Learn Poker. Pig out.

5.       Give your stilettos a rest (for awhile)

Guys love seeing a girl in sneakers or flip-flops as much as they love wearing the same thing too.

6.       Stay away from Britney Spears.

If you and your guy share a music gadget, try downloading more of the alternative-pop-rock genre. Dance music that will make them imagine you dancing would be a good playlist too.

7.       Boys Night Out

Give him 24 hours of just being around his friends. Let him do guy stuff. It will let him miss you more.

8.       Name calling

Although some guys find it sweet that a girl address them as HUN, BABY, SWEETIE, LOVES, DARLING and all that, do not call him anything unless he wants it.

9.       Dress Well

Know what to wear on the right occasion. Guys like to flaunt the girls they are dating. So be worthy of being flaunted.

10.   Smell Good

You want to make him to think of you whenever he smells your scent. So always smell good so that he gets hooked on you.

Shopping Havens

I love shopping! I guess a lot of women agree that shopping is our own therapy. We shop because we feel sad or angry. We shop to reward ourselves for a job well done. We shop because we got our bonuses. We shop because there's a big S-A-L-E posted outside the store's window. We shop. period.

So, as a certified shopaholic (and a shoeaholic as well), I would like to recommend the following shopping havens that are budget friendly, safe and convenient.

GREENHILLS

This includes the V-mall, Shopsville and Promenade.

If you are a gadget freak, you are in the right place. They have everything. Sold new or 2nd hand. Gadgets from China to Germany. You name it, they got it. You just need to find a friendly sales person and cut a good deal. But beware, sometimes, you might buy a GSM (galing sa magnanakaw) item. You might get surprised when all of a sudden, your phone gets blocked by NTC. Just make sure you check everything before you purchase.

Signature items for sale. You go to mall to find the original thing and then go out to the tiangges and find the exact replica. Overruns, Class A, AA, AAA bags, watches, clothes and shoes. Of course a lot of people would think that buying the fake items would save them money. Like they always say: "nasa nagdadala lang yan". Well, thats true. But then again, its still fake. So dont go bragging about it. If you cant afford the real thing, dont buy the replica. Save your money and buy the original or else, just buy the local brands. Its affordable, authentic and you are helping our economy.

Tiangge. I love the tiangge. If you have P1,000.00, you would be able to purchase a whole outfit. I swear! Well, you have to be resourceful and at the same time experimetal with fashion. A tank top (P150.00) + a maong shorts (P250.00) + baby doll shoes (P350.00) = very casual outfit for only P750.00! You have P250.00 left to buy yourself a set of earrings and bangles. See! What more can you buy if you have lots of cash in your wallet?

DAPITAN

Suki Market. Yup, its literally a market. If you want baskets of California Maki or some puto, this is the place to buy them. So the next time you are going to a pot-luck party, you know what to bring.

Dapitan Arcade. You want your house look like a home without spending much? Go buy your stuff here. Everything, and i mean everything is cheap. Incredibly cheap! But if you put everything together, you'll never guess how much you saved instead of buying them from the mall. Christmas season is when they get very crowded. Its because of the Santas and The Nativity and the Christmas Trees are overflowing. Christmas decorations in all sizes, shapes, and colors. But no matter how crowded it is, you'll go home happy and satisfied with your purchases.

MANDALUYONG

Golden Weaves Fabric Depot. This is where you can buy very affordable pillows (and curtains and some other stuff). My boyfriend's sister hired an interior designer and she took us there. Instantly, I was smiling. Pillows as low as P50.00, hotdog pillows for P175.00 and big pillows for P250.00. Since everything is on sale (like, everyday!), it would be a sin not to hoard. With the convenient parking and very friendly (and good looking) owner, what more can you ask for? My friends are so gonna be getting something soft this Christmas! hahaha! oh, grow up! Adults dont need to get surprise gifts!

SUBIC BAY FREEPORT

Duty Free. You don't need a passport or be a Balikbayan to be able to access the store. To the local people in Olonggapo, this is their grocery (sosyal!). The last time we went there with my friends, we were able to buy Lacoste shirts, Havaianas and Nike shoes 50% off the original price. If I compare it to the sale items here in Manila, its still cheaper there by a hundred bucks or more. Plus they have many designs and sizes available, unlike some other depots.

The best part is, you are in Subic.

RIVERBANKS

Looking for a depot? All the outlet stores you are looking for is in one roof. So if you want to save some money and buy nice stuff for yourself, your family or your friends, come by Marikina anytime. As we speak, the Sapatos Festival is on going..meaning, more discounts on shoes!

Here are the outlet stores:

Attitudes

Bizaare

Bench

BNY Jeans

Folded & Hung

Golden Fortune Bag Factory Outlet

Guess

Hammerhead Jeans & Shirts

Mossimo

NIKE Outlet Store

Reva

RRJ & Mr. Lee Factory Outlet

Sports Basic Airwalk

World Balance

There are more places to shop. Depending on your location...and taste...and patience. A true shopaholic knows how to bargain and a certified shoppingera always get the value for her/ his money.

Making it through the rain...

“ When a relationship dies do we ever really give up the ghost or are we forever haunted by the spirits of relationships past?”

2 years ago, I went through the most difficult time of my life. I had my very first major (major) broken heart. I cried every night and stayed in bed the whole day. I was sad every single day. I was depressed every single second. Every breath turned into a sob. I was devastated.

Then numbness came. I wasn't feeling anything anymore. I didn't care if I didn't washed my hair or changed my clothes. I didn't want to eat. I didn't want to talk to anyone. I watched TV but did not understood anything. I read books but never finished even the 1st chapter. I was just in my room, in bed, staring at the ceiling and feeling nothing.

Then a friend texted me something that changed my life. "Stop loving someone who takes you for granted and makes you feel like you are worthless." And I did. I stopped loving him. I got out of bed, took a bath, changed to a nice dress, put on my make-up, wore my high heeled shoes and went out with my girl friends. And for the first time, in months, I was feeling better. I was out, having the grandest time and meeting new people. Then it hit me...Oh my gosh, I am back! The me that I lost when I was in that unhealthy relationship was finally found. I missed me.

I believe that if a person experience pain and heart ache because of losing a loved one can only survive because of the people he/she is surrounded with. I was very lucky that my family were all there to make sure I was being taken care of. They gave me the space and time to get through the pain without asking me to do what they expected me to do. My friends, who always lend their ears to listen to my whining, complaining and crying. They were always there to give me the best advise and tells me all those funny stories that would always make me laugh. These people kept me sane. They are the ones who showed me how important life is. They held my hand while I get back on my feet. They were my pillars of strength.

Now that I have fully moved on, I am paying it forward. Trying to help my friends that are going through the same thing I did. I always tell them to go through the pain. Cry it out, get mad, get depressed, stay away from everyone and hate the person who made you feel that way. Then accept the fact that he/she may never come back again and then move on with your life. The love will always be there and sometimes you will miss that person, but that's ok, that's just being human. Cherish all the good memories no matter how bad the relationship ended. These memories will be a validation that YOU are the best he/she ever had.

" No matter who broke your heart, or how long it takes to heal, you’ll never get through it without your friends."

Christmas Wishlist

For pinoys like me, as soon as the ber month starts, Christmas spirit is in the air. Malls and radio stations are playing Christmas songs, TV commercials are holiday themed, you will see lanterns being sold almost everywhere, bonuses are given away, everyone is starting to count how many days before the 25th of December arrives, companies reserving restaurants for their Christmas parties, people are saving up and listing the names of the people they would be giving gifts to and some are starting to be nice to you.

So, i will be listing my wishlist for this years Christmas season. I hope I get the following:

From my officemates:

a. Post-Its. That I can use the whole year. Pwede yon may "sign here" or yon may arrows.

b. Stapler (with staple wire). Since its always disappearing from my desk, I want my own.

c. Scissors. The more, the better. Para pag nawala dahil nakalimutan ibalik ng nanghiram, may kapalit agad.

From my family (direct or extended ones):

a. Blinds. Purple color. 

b. "Hotdog" pillow. I want the big one.

c. Alarm clock. Para di na ko kailangan gisingin.

From my friends:

a. A book. If you are my friend, you know what I read.

b. Earrings. doesnt have to be expensive.

c. Planner. Starbucks, if possible or Cosmo, if its available already.

From my BF (bestfriend?boyfriend?bestfoe?):

a.  Spa certificate

b. Gym clothes/ accessories

c. HDD

From myself:

a. iTouch

b. Puppy

c. Digital Photo Frame

I really hope I can get  some of the stuff I want...Coz if not, I might need to recycle gifts again.

Happy Holidays!!! (in 3 months time!)

Relationships blah blah!

“Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous.”- Sex and The City

I have been to many (and i mean many) relationships. Some were a long as 7 years and some were very short lived (as in very short!). If my heart were literally broken every time my relationship ends with someone, my heart will be in tiny bits of pieces, placed in a long neck bottle, covered with a cork. I wont deny that I have broken a man's heart too, I'm not proud of it. I believe that breaking up or leaving someone will always bring pain to both of you. Even if you try to pretend that you made the right choice, you still get the feeling of choking up because of the tears that will burst out at any time.

My 2 male friends (and exes) were going through the same situation I had. But unlike me, they worked out their relationships and ended up with the same person. Funny thing was, when they were having their problems, I was there for them. Giving them encouragement and keeping them company so that they wont go insane. Eventually, they realized stuff and decided to pursue the love of their lives. Suddenly, I had questions. Why do these men, chose to be with the person who broke their hearts? Why do they think that working it out with them will make them happy? Why did it work out for them and mine did not? Was I not worth the effort? Is there something really wrong with me and I just cant get it together?

I also had a chance to get in touch with a friend from college (thanks to facebook) that I haven't seen in 10 years. It made me sad how much sacrifice she does to make her marriage work. Even if her husband beats her up and does not allow her to get work so she can take care of their kids 24/7, she stayed with him. When I asked her why? She just sobbed and said that inspite of everything, she loves him. I wanted to smack her hard to make her realize what she is doing to herself. But she kept saying that she loves her husband over and over. So it donned on me, maybe, some people wouldn't mind giving up everything for the person they love very much. And then I asked myself again, if I did gave up what I had to be with the person I thought loves me,would my life be different? would I be as happy as I am now?

Then reality kicks in. I remembered what Jennifer Lopez said when her relationship with Mark Anthony ended: "Sometimes we don’t realize that we are compromising ourselves. To understand that a person is not good for you, or that that person is not treating you in the right way, or that he is not doing the right thing for himself—if I stay, then I am not doing the right thing for me. I love myself enough to walk away from that now.”

I might say I have moved on and I have forgiven the people who were part of why I am in this situation. I am in the process of getting my life back on track and I am doing everything to improve myself in all the aspects of my life. I stay positive as much as I can so that I can face the challenges that all my relationships will bring, whether with a new love, with my family, my friends and all the people who becomes a part of my life.

Maybe some relationships do end, some relationships are worth the risk and sacrifice and some relationships deserve to be saved. I guess it all depends on what both of you like or want or need. I just hope that couples will always find a way to see each other eye to eye, talk heart to heart and stay together.

"What the world needs now is love sweet love,
it's the only thing that theres just too little of,
what the world needs now is love sweet love,
no not just for some but for everyone"

Gawang Pinoy

Signs that you are watching a filipino movie/teleserye:

1. Usually, its a story about a rich boy/girl falling inlove with a poor girl/boy and they go against the world to stay together. (di ba pwedeng parehong mayaman na lang o parehong mahirap?)

2. When the bida dies early, a “twin” suddenly appears from nowhere. (i find this really weird!)

3. The bad guys always wear leather / maong jackets. No matter how hot the weather is. (thats why the bad guys usually looks pawisin and mabaho)

4. The bida usually kills all the bad guys before the police arrives. (nangyayari siguro to sa tunay na buhay)

5. The leading lady always causes trouble and would be dragged by the leading man in escaping from the goons. (epal talaga sila minsan!)

6. The rich contrabida always have tons of money and gets a gang of 10 who she/he controls. (sa dami ng pera nya, why not hire a professional assasin ang kill the freakin bida?)

7. The bestfriend of the leading stars usually looks uglier or fatter. (may bestfriend din naman ako, mas maganda at payat nga sya sa kin e)

8. The bida’s family is killed and he/she changes his/her looks to start his plan of revenge. (i think changing the look is an ego booster)

9. When a character is leaving, usually, sa states pupunta or if there’s a new character, sa states din galing (ayaw ba nila ng galing sa London? O Russia? O dyan lang sa malapit, like Hongkong).

10. When meal is served, usually orange juice ang drinks. (ayaw nila ng ibang flavor)

11. If its a barkada movie, the 16 years old characters already drives cars. (lisensya??)

12. Everyone keeps waking up with nice hair and perfect make-up. (they forgot the term “mukang bagong gising”)

13. Why do they keep using long names like “eduardo” or “miguel”?( wala ba silang mga nick names?)

14. If its horror, usually the place is dark or the horror occurs at night. (pwede naman kasi buksan ang ilaw or magdala ng flashlight)

15. The movie soundtrack is usually sang by the leadin stars. (di ba marunong kumanta yon mga kontrabida?)

No wonder I dont really watch tagalog movies. It gets annoying and dragging most of the time.

Fate.

Ive always believed that everything happens for a reason. Every person you meet has a purpose that may change your life forever. Every place you go to is the place where you're supposed to be at that right time. So as I was sitting down in my bed last night, trying to think of what is happening around me, I told myself...Aya, its meant to happen.

My Tito died the other day. I think its the 4th or 5th death in the family. It's sad how this kind of event brings the whole clan together. I sat on the corner of the funeral home observing people coming in and out, listening to their stories and envying my uncle who was lying there, not seeing or hearing what all these people are blabbing about. I just wanted to tell them that he didn't die because he wanted to, he died because he's already done with his mission here on earth and God has asked him back to join Him. Whatever that mission was, i guess no one will never know.

Since I'm a Facebook junkie, I read most of the updates before I go to bed or in the morning, while I'm having my coffee and cigarette. But, the other day, I read a status that pricked my heart. The person who I cared about so much is about to go away for good. This person helped me go through so much when I was broken hearted. This person  made me realize that life always has to go on, no matter what. That is how this person affected me. Maybe because we shared a bond no one will understand. Maybe we were both getting through the same thing. If only I can tell this person how much I appreciated everything and that ill be forever thankful...but its too late, i guess. Its just the way it should be.

Its raining again. how funny how life plays a trick on you. i was having second thoughts of leaving my umbrella home this morning. But because I changed my bag, it has a space to put it inside. So, I'm going home dry...Yey!

What I'm trying to say is, life is not predictable. You'll never know what the results of your choices are. No one can predict how your day will go. You will go some place and meet the right person for you. You might open your mail and receive bad news. You can bump to anyone, anywhere. You will see people from your past in the most ironic places. You will answer a phone call from a stranger and find out that you have common friends. You can never plan your life. You take it day by day. Live it like its your last. And thank God for everything and everyone who will leave a mark in your heart and a space in your memory.

Wrong Impressions

People are naturally judgemental and assuming. Whatever one person does or how she/he walks, talks, dresses or whatever, others will always have, most of the time, the wrong impression. I've been going through this most of my life and sometimes, its gets tiring to always prove them wrong.

If I wear really short skirts and low-cut blouses, doesn't mean I am slut. I'm just more comfortable in these clothes.

If I smile at you and you are a stranger, it doesnt mean I want to hook up with you. I am very friendly. I love meeting new people.

If I am not smiling early in the morning, it doesnt mean Im like that the whole day. I always change my mood as the day goes by.

If I am online all day doesnt mean im not doing my job. I did. I actually finished everything that I need to do.

If you did something wrong and you've hurt me very much, but I still talk to you, it doesnt mean I didnt forget what you did. I forgive, but i never forget.

If I get mad at you and make everything about you a big deal, it doesnt mean I'm jealous of what you are doing with your life. It means I care about you.

If I dont take time to see my friends or attend reunions doesnt mean I'm just making excuses. I'm a very busy person. I need to have time to just hang-out.

If I dont act my age, it doesnt mean im not mature. I'm just a child at heart.

If I start losing weight and eat less doesnt mean Im doing this for somebody else. NO. I'm doing it for myself. Both sides of my family has diabetes. I'm just taking care of myself.

If I look good, its because I feel good. I usually look how i feel.

If you are my ex, and I ask you to have coffee with me, it doesnt mean i wanna get back with you. I just wanna catch up. I always consider my exes, freinds.

If you text me, Ill text you back, If you think its a form of flirting, its not. I dont use technology to flirt. I do the real thing.

If I get loud, it doesnt mean I dont have breeding. I am a certified  party-girl. I always have major fun everytime I get the chance.

so there. ask. dont assume.

Giese for HB 1799!

No, it is not meant for men or women who are fans of infidelilty. It's for people who are ready to face a new life on their own. I am so tired of reading and hearing stupid comments about this. My gosh, this is the 21st century. Don't let yourself (specially your brain) be left out. In a world that are full of temptations and many are putting aside their values for the sake of satisfying their hunger for money, flesh and power, you are a hypocrite if you think that this bill will not help anyone, or maybe, you THINK you have the most perfect marriage in the world. Oh, for  Pete's sake! wake up! this is reality. People will always screw each other up and the victims have the right to turn their lives around and be happy.

I hope this bill will turn into a law. Women who were left by their husbands for some shitty reason will benefit from this. Give them a chance to have their maiden names back so that they can move on with their lives. Give them the opportunity to get their lives back and find new loves that they deserve without being scared that they maybe sued. Let them experience the happiness that they deserve.

Look, if couples really love each other and their marriage is built on trust, loyalty and respect, separation and divorce will never be on their minds. If a man and a wife seriously do what they promised each other when they got married, then this wouldn't be an issue for them.

So to the people who would be responsible in passing this bill...be wise, be open minded and be a good person.

Signs you are obsessed with Facebook

if you agree on all the stuff i'm about to say, i guess you need to get a life...

1. you change profile pictures everyday.

2. you upload albums from the time you were a baby until the present.

3.you update your status every hour.

4. you tag all your friends on your solo pictures.

5. you take note of the number of friends you have and panics when you loose one.

6. you chat with every person on-line even if they are in idle mode.

7. you creat groups even if you dont have to.

8. you play all zinga games available to you.

9. you search for your classmates when you were in nursery school.

10. you are a fan of everyone and everything.

11. you add everyone you have common friends with.

12. you upload videos of yourself and ask everyone to like it.

13. you like every status you read.

14. you comment on everything you see and read.

15. you greet everyone who has a birthday and conforms every event you get invited to.

16. you post a question to answer even your most personal problems.

17. you made NOTES your personal diary.

18. provided all information asked on your account.

19. you dont care about the privacy option.

20. you spend most of the time logged in rather than working (guilty!)

huli na to!

To you! (you should know who you are)

Bakit? bakit kailangan kang makialam? kasali ka 'te? di ko magets kung bakit lagi na lang nakikisawsaw ka sa lahat ng issues ng ibang tao kahit di ka naman involved? Kailangan ba parati mong alam nangyayari sa buhay ng may buhay? Perpekto ba buhay mo para pagaksayahan mo ng panahon ang pakiki-epal sa buhay ng ibang tao? at nandon ka ba? nakita mo ba? lahat ba ng ikinuwento sa yo tama? Sigurado ka ba na yon nga talaga ang tunay na nangyari?

Ito lang ha...sinasabi mo na kaibigan ka, pero kinakaibigan mo lang yon tao para makakuha ka ng bagong scoop. tapos lahat ng sinabi sa yo ng taong yon, pinagsabi mo naman sa iba. anong tawag don? Ito pa, magcocomment ka ng di maganda sa ibang tao dahils sa sinabi ng source ng tsismis mo...e wala ka ngang idea kung ano nangyari e. E pati nga yon source mo, wala din alam...hayy naku, nakaka-stress kayo!!!!

Wag nyo akong yabangan sa mga yaman at pera nyo. Dahil kahit nakadamit ka pa ng ginto, kung ganyan ugali mo, lalabas at lalabas din ang kapangitan ng ugali mo. At isa pa, lahat ng naririnig mo na akala mong galing sa kin, ipagtanong mo muna ng maigi. Hindi lang ako ang nagsasabi non, marami na. matagal na nilang napapansin yon, di lang nila alam kung ano ang tawag sa ganon ugali. wala pa ko dito, ganyan na ang tingin nila sa yo. takot lang sila magcomment kasi nga friend mo daw sila (yeah, right!).

Kung may galit ka sa kin, wag kang duwag! sabihin mo ng harapan. Hindi kung kani-kanino mo pa idadaan. Maliit lang ang mundo at makakarating din sa kin lahat ng mga pinagsasabi mo. Ang tatanda na natin. Ang tanda mo na. Lahat ng mga bagay na ganito, pwede ng pagusapan. O kung mas ok sa yo, suntukan na lang tayo sa wall. papa-video ko pa!

Sa susunod, bago ka makialam, isipin mo muna mabuti. Ayusin mo muna mga problema mo..tapos ayusin mo problema ng mga kamag-anak mo..tapos yon problema naman ng kapitbahay nyo...ihuli mo na yon mga problema ko. Di ka naman parte non e. Ni hindi nga na-mention pangalan mo e. Wag ng pakialamera. Wag ng tanong ng tanong. Pag hindi kasali, wag ng ipagsiksikan ang sarili. Kung gusto mo ng pakikialaman, ang daming problema ng pilipinas, yon ang pakilaman mo. Makakatulong ka na, sasaya ka pa kasi nagawa mo nyon hobby mo. di ba?

o yan lang. huli na to. Di na nakakatulong sa buhay ko ang pakikipag-dwelo sa yo. Basta tatandaan mo lang, di lahat ng bagay sa mundo, kailangan ka. just mind your own business. yon lang.

peace out!

push my buttons, why dont you?

Why? Why do you keep doing what you are doing? It's effin' irritating, swear!

a. THE GOVERNMENT EMPLOYEE- these are the people who doesn't work in a government but acts like they do. Kailangan mo maghintay ng taon bago magawa ng tama ang nirerequest mo. They would give you the information that you need pero kulang. They would suggest something that would help you solve your problems, yon pala mali. And here's the best part, nakatayo ka na sa harap nila, but they would prefer talking to their neighbors or chit-chatting on the phone than ask you what you need.

b. KLEPTO- people who just doesn't have the etiquette to ask permission that they would be borrowing (and eventually getting) your things. Hindi dahil close tayo, OK lang na kuha ka lang ng kuha ng gamit ko. Di rin porke nakalatag sa lamesa, ibig sabihin libre mo ng kunin. You can always ask. Di naman ako madamot e. Oh and by the way, please return as soon as you finish using it and return it where you actually got it.

c. PG (patay gutom)- not just on food. on everything. May kasabihan nga tayo, "bakit ka bibili kung makukuha mo naman ng libre?" There's always something about the word FREE that makes you want to take everything for yourself. Here's a good suggestion, after every single person in the room or in the vicinity of 5 kms have gotten their share, and no one else wants to have the left-overs, then go ahead. Ibalot na yan!

d. WALANG BREEDING- buti pa ang dogs meron. Seriously, manners man, manners! It doesn't hurt to be nice once in awhile. I know that its only human to be all boastful and uncivilized sometimes, pero pag araw-araw sa bawat minuto na binigay sa yo e ganyan ka, my oh my, you have a lot of learning to do.

e. PLASTIC - people who pretend to be your friend but as soon as you turn, you have a knife sticking on your back. Actually, uso to e. Sometimes the situation calls for it. Parang kailangan mo maging orocan so that you can get through a day being around people you really don't like. But here's the thing, if you consider the people you are with as FRIENDS, then you don't have to be like this.

f. GEMINI- just like the sign, there are two faces and two sides. Unlike the plastic people, Gemini people can  have 2 personalities at the same time. talentadong pinoy. These are the people who pretends to be good but are cruel. People who pretends to be happy but is actually dying inside. People who pretends to be strong but eventually commits suicide. People who pretends to be mahinhin and then gets pregnant out of wedlock. People who pretends to be rich but is actually in debt. People who pretends to be matalino, pero downloaded lang pala sa Internet lahat ng tinuturo nya. People who pretends to be holy, pero kung magmura, hataw. People who pretends to have a perfect life, yon pala binunugbog ng asawa. People who pretends to be straight but is attracted to the same sex.. People who pretends to be your friend pero naiingit pala sa yo.

g. BRITNEY- people who are just plain crazy. They are the ones who thinks that being different makes them better than the others. Mga taong tamang hinala. Akala nya sya laging pinaguusapan at pinariringgan. Akala nya lahat ng memo, lahat ng nakasulat sa board, lahat ng kanta na naririnig nya, dedicated sa kanya. Nak naman ng pating! Get a life. Stop watching movies that makes you think hard. For a change, give your brain a break. Kaw na matalino! Go party. Be around people. Talk to others about non-sence stuff. Stop thinking of yourself as superior to others because you read more. Hayy naku, kung ganyan ka ng ganyan, malamang sa mandaluyong ka na namin bisitahin. Sa loob ha!

AFFECTED KA? GUILTY KA! (and I dont care kung nasasaktan ka kasi pag totoo, masakit talaga!)

To the Future Me:

I was watching a re-run of How I Met Your Mother yesterday while I was on a treadmill warming up. It was the episode when Marshall and Ted wrote letters for their future selves when they were in college, and they read it years after. It was inspiring. That's why I am writing a letter to my future self too. I've decided to write a letter to the 40 year old me...

Dear 40 year old Aya,

Can you believe it? You actually reached this age? I mean, you have been smoking and drinking and not getting enough sleep. I'm just glad you've been getting the exercise that your body needs. But how many times have I told you to stay away from chocolates and chips? Yan tuloy, you haven't achieved the 28" waistline goal mo, but nevertheles, at 40, you still look good (naks naman!).

So, you and cyrel finally got your own salon business. good job! i hope more people would come and visit your place. I think you should offer more services para mas madaming choices clients ninyo. Save more money so you can expand already. Don't worry, everything will be better for both of you. Patience my dear, patience.

Your baby is all grown up. You should be so proud of him. Manang-mana sa ama! Where are they anyway? Malamang, sinama na naman ng asawa mo ang anak mo sa court. I guess they both love basketball that much. I hope he gets to join the little league this summer. Like they always say, its good to start in an early age. Oh, and he must be excited to study in a big school. Don't pressure him too much, bata pa yan.

Have you checked the time? You should be in a meeting with the people who would be building your new house. Go get dressed  because driving to Makati from the suburbs will take hours and hours. Your dress will look even better if you use your strappy Jimmy Choo shoes. Dont bother bringing a bag, the LV clutch is just fine. C'mon and get your fat ass out of bed!

Don't forget to thank the Lord for your blessings and always remember to keep grounded all the time.

Love you forever,

The Aya now

I miss you...

Inspired by Mo Twister's tweets, I am making my own too.

Whenever we're not together...

...i miss sleeping and waking up beside you...

...i miss the way you flex infront of the mirror after taking a shower....

...i miss those times we just lay in bed and surf the channels...

...i miss lighting a cigarette for you and you lighting a cigarette for me....

...i miss you eating whats left in my food because i'm too full to finish it...

...i miss you waiting outside the gym for me...

...i miss kissing and hugging you in public...

...i miss going to the best restaurants in the metro just to know how they food tastes like...

...i miss how you keep quiet whenever i nag about your tardiness...

...i miss your in between work calls...

...i miss passing by shell in commonwealth and we both go "yihhheee!"

...i miss those days that we both go on a diet and get thin together...

...i miss strolling at the mall and going inside sports store just to compare prices...

...i miss you picking me up from my night-out with friends...

...i miss dancing close to you...

...i miss hearing you say "i love you, goodnight" after our usual before bed phone conversation...

...i miss your hilarious expressions: bobby dacer, subra subra, aayyy loko

...i miss how disorganized your things are but you still know where to find what you need...

...i miss watching all the good movies with you...

...i miss you holding my hand when we cross the street...

...i miss going out of town with you and having a blast...

...i miss giving you a kiss on the neck and you giggle...

don't make me miss you...stay forever! <3

Movie Critic (kuno!)

THOR

I am not a Marvel Comics fan, nor a superhero enthusiast, but I loved THOR.  Besides the leading character played by Chris , who’s a combination of Heath Ledger and Brad Pitt, the plot of the story was very interesting.

Highlights

-          Visual effects were amazing.

-          Thor walking across the room, half naked in black, tight fitting jeans showing off his incredible abs and brief muscles plus he is just so buff, he doesn’t have to flex to show what he has! (nakakalaglag talaga sya ng panty!)

-          Anthony Hopkins played the king and Rene Russo played the queen

-          Witty conversations between the characters

-          The chemistry between the main character and his leading lady (kakilig, sobra!)

Low lights

-          Thor’s warrior costume. What’s with the red cape? I don’t get it, why the hammer with a symbol much likes of the Charmed TV series?

-          Why do FBI agents wear suits all the time? Bawal ba yon casual look?

I can’t wait to see The Avengers....****

FAST AND THE FURIOUS 5

I’ve seen the past Fast and the Furious movies: the original Fast and the Furious, Tokyo Drift, Miami, the Fast and the Furious 4 and then last night, I saw the 5^Th. All in all, the 5 movies were just awesome.

Highlights

-          Most of the original casts were present.

-          The movie was shot  in Brazil (Rio de Janeiro- the place I so want to go before I die)

-          Funny dialogues

-          Its Vin Diesel vs The Rock! The fight scene was UFC-like. Super astig!

-          Paul Walker was as cute as ever!

-          Every scene for the whole 2 hours of the movie will leave you at the edge of your seat. As in every single scene!

Low lights

-          There were so many action scenes; the usual high-tech car racing was not shown.

-          I was looking forward to seeing more of the amazing display of cars.

-          The ladies are just getting thinner and thinner.

-          The plot of the story, stealing the vault, was already done by “The Italian Job” and “Oceans 11”.

-          Every single bad person was killed during a shootout...except for the bad boss’s side kick.

-          The main female character was pregnant, but she ran, jumped to a roof and landed on concrete floor and survived. Bawal sa buntis yon, di ba?

-          Vin Diesel doesn’t have a 6-pack anymore. Boo!

-          Hate the soundtrack. Oh, there is no soundtrack! Boo!

If you stayed after the credits, you’ll wonder how the hell Michelle Rodriguez character suddenly became alive. Does it mean that there’s a 6^Th movie? ***